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Lovemaking vs. Sex: Does it even matter what you call it, isn’t the end result all the same?

Lovemaking vs. Sex: Does it even matter what you call it, isn’t the end result all the same?

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What is the difference between making love and having sex? Is one slow and sensual while the other, fast and exciting? Or is that one is an act you perform with the one you love and the other you just fancy? Does it even matter what you call it, isn’t the end result all the same? I believe there is a difference, it could be me just being a woman unnecessarily over thinking and have a tendency to romanticise everything. Regardless, I think making love is something you do with someone you have a deep connection with. It is something that comes after a period of time of getting to know someone, you click intellectually and spiritually. There is real emotional love between you both. The atmosphere is set in a relaxed and comfortable place. You took the time to light candles, dim the lights, drink fine wine and dig out your best sexy CD. The Intimacy is intense, its sensual and you both take your time exploring one another’s body. Somebody say foreplay! Tons of kissing, cuddling during and afterwards, nothing else matters and all you want to do is ‘make a baby’.

In my opinion, sex is at the other end of the spectrum and has various aspects to it. You can have sex with someone you care about however it can be carried out with someone you just fancy and it is not necessarily planned. Lovemaking is about pleasing your partner while sex is about ensuring you reach the point of ecstasy. “Well boi, I got mine”.

Sex is associated with one night stands and cheating. Having a friend with ‘benefits’. Sex is quick and spontaneous, something you need when you have had a dry spell.   Sex is lots of dirty talk, whips, chains and role playing games. A chance to show off your latest yoga move and all that other exciting stuff.

It does not matter which one you do as both can bring you ultimate pleasure and satisfaction. It really does depend on your mood and circumstance on which you end up doing.   The crying shame is when two people get together and one thinks they are making love while the other knows its just sex.


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