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What does it mean to be whipped?

What does it mean to be whipped?

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First let us establish what it means to be “whipped”. According to urbandictionary.com, it states whipped is “being controlled by your girlfriend or boyfriend…in most cases a guy being completely controlled by his girlfriend”. For instance, a guy and his woman are in a relationship and she can pretty much ask for anything, as she is certain that he will deliver 9.5 times out of ten. She has him wrapped around her little finger and he, the poor sod, is following like a lamb to the slaughter. I often find myself thinking quite deeply about the term “falling in love”. In past times, I was and probably still am, of the opinion that love is a decision. I struggle to believe that it can totally take you by surprise. I suppose you might not be completely clued up about how you developed such strong affections for a person, however, at some moment in time; you most likely spent a little time daydreaming about them. Or you held on to a hug for a twinkling longer than that which would suggest a platonic relationship.

You choose who you let into your life. There are bound to be people who you feel you have to cut any sort of attraction with; nip those drawing powers in the bud before they are fed and watered. Even if you fail to see it at that present time, upon reflection, you can more often than not identify what about him caused you to feel that way. My point is, you are responsible for feeling affection towards that person. They might be clean-cut, chivalrous and caring, but if you did not allow them to rock your boat, you would still be sailing peacefully.

My only fear for those claiming to be or those who have being “whipped” is that they might be at risk of exploitation. People can quite easily manipulate a situation for their benefit. Love, like all things that are mishandled and underappreciated, will rot if left in the hands of a person whose heart is abundant with ill intentions. A relationship can slowly become abusive if one party loses their senses and continues to follow blindly.

So…what can one do to avoid falling prey to an unmannerly person who does not recognise the value of their romantic contribution? Take care of number one. By that I mean, making a conscious effort to keep a part of your heart for yourself. Sometimes we give our all to someone and if they are one foot in, one foot out, it is going to be a treacherous ending. Being whipped is not all together a bad place to be, nonetheless, if the cons outweigh the pros, it might be time to rethink your infatuation.

Being whipped is not necessarily a bad thing and I am sure your partner or spouse-to-be will not have much to complain about. Being in love is fun and risky, so it should be approached as such. So what if you plummet head over heels?! Is it really that bad? I mean, you might just have auditioned yourself for a great love story.

 

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