#FAMP: Are Women from Venus and Men from Mars?
Men are known to be creatures of logic, and women are seen to be driven more by emotion.
I am sure by now most of you have heard that saying. Some of you may have actually read the book. If you have done neither, well let me shed some light on it. “Women are from Venus and Men are from Mars” expresses the belief that women and men operate in two different ways. Men are known to be creatures of logic, and women are seen to be driven more by emotion. So is this really the case? Are we really built differently? My answer is an emphatic YES! We are most certainly two different types of people, and these differences are what has led to the ongoing communication gap that plagues our existence, which therefore hinders our relationships.
I know what some of you may be thinking “well, if we know we are different should we not be able to use that to our advantage in creating more harmony and better communication?” If only it were that simple! But wait, it actually is that simple. We have over complicated this issue for far too long. We continue to have unhappy men and women dragging along in their relationships simply because neither truly understands the other. So how do we begin to put an end to this travesty? How do you we take the necessary steps to finally rectify this issue? Here are some tips to getting on the same page as your partner, and to begin to have a much more fulfilling relationship.
It’s not them, it’s YOU
Don’t get me wrong, I totally understand that your partner has done plenty to make you mad and contribute to a negative situation. I realize that you may have made many efforts to fix things yet they seem to resist them and nothing has worked. Despite those facts, we as men and women will never be able to understand each other if all we do is point the finger at the other person.
When you are just focused on defending your actions and pointing out their shortcomings, you have effectively put yourself in a position where you will not be able to properly understand their reasoning, their needs, or their issues. You are simply too caught up in yourself to see things clearly. So, the first step is to focus only on what you can control, which is you. Yes you may have done plenty already, but can you honestly say you have continued to be the man or woman THEY need you to be?
You may have been great as far as you’re concerned, but you need to focus on what they need from you. Hold yourself accountable for your actions, and trust that by putting your best foot forward you will give yourself a much better chance at beginning to understand your partner and giving them the example they need to be a better partner.
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