MAKE YOURSELF COUNT: 5 Little Reasons to Put Yourself First
Selfishness is seen as a deplorable trait but in fact, being a little selfish is a thing that should be often practiced. Putting your needs and wellbeing before anything else should be priority in your life. Whilst giving into other people’s demands may make you feel you are clocking up your ‘good deeds’ list, it can leave you feeling deflated, stressed and can lead to depression which often leads to you being no good to anyone including yourself. When you board a plane the Air Stewards always demonstrate the flight safety rules before you take off. Have you ever noticed the part when they advice the parents to ensure they put on their oxygen masks on first before they help the children? Why? There is a greater chance of survival if you ensure that you’re in a position to help. The ‘doomed’ can’t help the ‘doomed’! This same principle applies to life. Now, putting yourself first is something that we have some trouble putting in practice. Perhaps my 5 little reasons listed below will inspire to begin to do so.
If you keep giving and don’t take some time out to care for you, you to could find yourself in the same position of the very people you are trying to help.
Chill out time is essential
Families, friends and some jobs can be demanding of your time and emotions. It can be stressful looking after a sick relative, a friend in need or being in a job that requires you to look out for other people’s welfare. It can take up your thoughts and even your life. If you keep giving and don’t take some time out to care for you, you too could find yourself in the same position of the very people you are trying to help.
Your feelings matter
We have somehow managed to learn to put our feelings aside and put other people’s feeling before our own. Have you noticed that those who accuse you of being selfish are the very ones who want you to put your feelings aside to satisfy their own selfish needs? To avoid stress and depression, deal with your feelings first no matter.
You set the example
People will treat you how you treat yourself. If you feel your needs do not matter, others will catch on to this and follow suit. We all know someone who thinks they are the bees knees and seem to somehow get their own way all the time. That's because they have set the example and expect nothing less.
If you have children or in a position of a mentor there is nothing better than learning from someone who has self-respect, self-acceptance and know how to love and appreciate themselves.
Being selfish can make you feel great!
Take one day and make it all about you. People may feel you have gone mad but it will be fun.
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