"Forget About Likeability" - Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie
In her acceptance speech for being honoured at the 2015 Girls Write Now Awards, Americanah author, Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie advises young girls and women that they should "forget about likeability"! Though this advice was shared with the girls she tutored in her writing workshop in Nigeria, applying this advice in our daily lives is sure to do us some good, emotionally and mentally. Chimamanda encourages us to not bend ourselves into several shapes in order to be liked! Let's not be afraid to be our full selves! Watch and read her speech below.
“I think that what our society teaches young girls, and I think it’s also something that’s quite difficult for even older women and self-professed feminists to shrug off, is that idea that likeability is an essential part of you, of the space you occupy in the world, that you’re supposed to twist yourself into shapes to make yourself likeable, that you’re supposed to kind of hold back sometimes, pull back, don’t quite say, don’t be too pushy, because you have to be likeable.
“And I say that is bullshit.
“And so what I want to say to young girls, is forget about likeability … The world is such a wonderful, diverse, and multifaceted place that there’s somebody who’s going to like you; you don’t need to twist yourself into shapes.”