Life of hers: 'I am not ready for any man to define me' - an experience too familiar?


It's interesting to see your life played out through so many characters in the same program because after all, it’s only so often – if ever, that we might find ourselves being represented through the few black characters we see played out on TV. "Life of Hers' a web-series written by London-based Nigerian, Samantha Chioma and directed by the film duo Olan Collardy and Ola Masha and produced by Waiki Harnais hit the Web this month. It's clear to see that it has already become a talking point through five episodes of the first series and not surprisingly so. The four characters Kaima, Hodan, Cassandra and Valentine embody the differences we experience in life that actually empower us as black women of African origin – making it easy for the viewer to automatically identify with these four young women with their obstacles being shared experiences at some point in life.

Watching the individual stories unfold, triggered the understanding that: although we all go through different life experiences, at some point in life we may find that we all stand on common ground. The strong friendships showcased by the four girlfriends shows is a testament to their ability and willingness to face life's complexities together and talk about anything and everything. But what actually fascinates me is that deep in their hearts of hearts, they find they face a lifestyle sometimes inhabiting denial, bad judgement and a lot of self-criticism. You can sense the constant pressures of trying to commit to, and live a lifestyle often dictated by others – reminding me of something we have all neglected to do at some point, which is: forgetting to live for today and even congratulate ourselves for getting through the last 24 hours.

Take the character Hodan for example, who appears to be a strong woman with success at her door yet she refuses to let her barrier down for a man who genuinely loves her because she's 'not ready for any man to define [her] ... at the expenses of [her] sense of freedom' What's surprising is that in episode five, Joseph who felt rejected by Hodan is welcomed by feelings emerging from Kaima. A twist, I predict won't go down too well. Let's not forget Valentine and her difficulty to balance her relationship with God with her relationship with Luic. Another obstacle that sounds all too familiar. Ring any bells?

"Life of Hers" allows you to appreciate characters who cross the same boundaries we do and to identify with black women who assume the same life challenges we do. A definite must watch if you know you'll appreciate a series that illustrates a real-life situations, similar to your own.